New You for the New Year – (Part 4): Setting the Sails for Change: The Three Basic Learnings.

As we approach the New Year with  a desire for change and improvement, it becomes abundantly clear that we must identify, develop, acquire and utilize the tools for outrageous success. The best gift that anyone can give us to help us make 2014 our “best year yet” is the gift we give ourselves. That gift should be the Power Tools for Success contained in the Perfect

gift – www.theperfectgift.me.

The first basic learning is that you can’t wait until the New Year arrives to start

working on it. You should always “Face the Facts.”  Regularly review and evaluate where you are in each aspect of your life. Determine the learnings and personal adjustments you must make right now. Write them down on a separate sheet of paper for frequent review.

            The second basic learning is that you must take full responsibility for all aspects of

your present life in order to change them. This is your “wake up call.”

If you keep doing what you’ve always done,
You’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten.

    Once you take full responsibility for every aspect of your life, you can ask yourself, “What were the thoughts, habits, and associations that brought about the results I am now experiencing?
For example, your challenge may be tardiness. You are always late for everything. Ask yourself, “What happens when I am late?” Write it down. “What
does not happen when I am late?” Write that down also. List what happens when you are on time. Which is better?

   Rather than blaming other people, circumstances, or conditions for your present
situation, take responsibility for finding a ways to overcome in spite of them.

 Don’t waste time fighting alligators.
Drain the swamp.

             The third basic learning is for things to get better, you must get better. Recognize and acknowledge your situation. Determine the areas you need to work on to get better. Commit to do the work. Do it until it is done.  

If you don’t fix it,
it will stay broken. 

   Prayer for growth and improvement, Help me to be better than I have been. Help to be as good as I can be. Help me to be as great as you want me to be. In your name, Father. So be it, Amen.

 Tomorrow Part 5: “Establishing Your Goals and Objectives.”
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New You for the New Year – (Part 3): Setting the Sails for Change.

As we approach the New Year with a desire for change and improvement, it becomes abundantly clear that we must identify, develop, acquire and utilize the tools for outrageous success. The best gift that anyone can give us to help us make 2014 our “best year yet” is the gift we give ourselves. That gift should be the Power Tools for Success contained in the Perfect

gift – www.theperfectgift.me.

Look at your present situation. Examine all aspects of your life: spiritual, physical,

personal, family, professional, financial, emotional, relationships, social, community and so on.

            Take each aspect and ask the following questions:

1. What were my goals for this year?

2. Am I happy with my performance this year?

3. If so, Why?

4. If not, Why not?

5. What could I have done to improve my performance?

6. What will I not do again?

7. What must I do to improve my performance next year?

8. What will happen if I do improve my performance next year?

9. What will happen if I don’t improve my performance next year?

 

Have a sheet of paper for each aspect of your life. Write the aspect being studied at

the top of the page and answer the above nine questions with respect to that particular

aspect.

Be honest with yourself. Once you have answered the above nine questions – in writing, you should have a good idea of what you must do in each area of your life to make 2014 the way you want it to be. This is the basis for the learnings and personal adjustments you must make.

 

Tomorrow: (Part 4) Setting the Sails for Change: The Three Basic Learnings:
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New You for the New Year – (Part 2) Face the Facts

As we approach the New Year with  a desire for change and improvement, it becomes abundantly clear that we must identify, develop, acquire and utilize the tools for outrageous success. The best gift that anyone can give us to help us make 2014 our “best year yet” is the gift we give ourselves. That gift should be the Power Tools for Success contained in the Perfect

gift – www.theperfectgift.me.

 

We must wake up to the reality we have created for ourselves and face it. Take responsibility for that reality – good, bad, or indifferent. We can only change those things that we take personal responsibility for creating.

            2. Ask yourself, “What were my goals for last year, when I started out last January?” If you didn’t have any, or if you can’t remember what they were, then there was nothing to aim for, and nothing to work at. Wherever you are right now, whatever your situation, is strongly affected by your lack of direction and goals.

Life is like a garden. You must affirmatively “plant flowers” – have positive goals and objectives. You must also actively “pull up the weeds” – eliminate negative thoughts, habits, and people. If you had no clearly defined goals when last year started, you gave the weeds a chance to grow, and grow they will – that is their nature.

3. Face the facts. You are where you are right now because of your thoughts, your emotions and feelings, your actions, and your associations. Don’t blame anyone or anybody for your present condition or circumstances. Where you are and what you have is the result of who you are and what you have done. If this New Year is to be better than last year, you must get better in every respect. You must be clearer and more effective than ever before.

Affirm each day: “Everyday, in every way, I am getting better and better.”

 

Tomorrow – Part 3: “Setting the Sails For Change.”
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The New You for the New Year (Part 1):

Face The Facts
Every January many of us make a big deal about New Year’s Resolutions. If we wait until the New Year to start thinking about how we want it to be different from the last year, then we put ourselves at a distinct disadvantage. One of the basic traits of truly successful people is that they have clearly defined goals and objectives and a written plan of action in advance of the New Year. To give themselves the best opportunity to accomplish their goals, many successful people use a source of information and techniques, a calendar and a success workbook to guide them to significant achievement. Preparing for 2014, www.theperfectgift.me provides tools that facilitate success.
Over this series of daily blogs, we shall together look at what must be done to make 2014 much better than 2013.
The first step is to assess your present situation — review and evaluate your performance over the last year.
1. Review your wins and lessons – your victories and apparent defeats.
Take a blank sheet of paper, divide it in half and draws a cross. On the left side of the vertical line, above the horizontal line, write the word “victories.” Below the horizontal line, list your victories – the things that worked and the accomplishments made over the last year.
On the right side of the vertical line, above the horizontal line, write the word “lessons.” Below the horizontal line, list your lessons – apparent defeats, that which did not work. Ben Franklin, one of the founding fathers of this country, would compare the total the number of “victories” with the total number of “lessons.” If there were more “victories,” it was a good year. He would continue what he was doing, with refinement and improvements. If there were more “lessons,” he would make significant changes from whatever he did last year, so that this year would yield different results.
Use this method to examine your present situation – where you are in your life right now. You can then see the results-to-date of your thoughts, emotions, habits, and associations.
Are you happy with what you see?
With what you feel? With the condition of yourself and your family? Did you have more “victories” or “lessons?” Will you strive to do better this year, or glide through it with more of the same?
Insanity is doing the same things this year that you did last year – and expecting a different result.
Tomorrow: New You for the New Year (Part 2): Taking Responsibility
Herbert Harris